Category Archives: Grief

Widow Wednesday #11 Start with the small things

Gratitude is both next to impossible and essential when we are grieving. Don’t even think that I’m going to that place of being grateful because your loved one is no longer suffering or in heaven. That sort of thinking is … Continue reading

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Things not to say

1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve … Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #10

Widow Wednesday

Messages of love
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
-Rumi
Pretty much everyone I know who has lost a loved one has told me a story of how they believed their loved one showed up in another form after they died. The time has come to accept these happenings as valid as well as valuable. Continue reading

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Grief is (a short doc)

This summer I had the opportunity to work with Back Lane Studios and make a short doc. The goal, as per usual, was to let grieving folks know they are not alone and to make everyone else a bit more … Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #9

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesday, where I share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. How to support the grieving: Accept that loss is a life-altering experience Time is a social construct and created through thinking. … Continue reading

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Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug

Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug The holidays are different after loss. It cannot be otherwise. Just as Christmas changed as we grew into adulthood It must also change as we grow into life after loss This takes time Sometimes we yearn … Continue reading

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Reach Out and Touch Faith

For those with family reaching out to those on their own is a gesture of good will towards others; an opportunity to share one’s good fortune with those who would otherwise be alone.Reaching out for those who are on their own is an act of faith because when we ask to be included we are vulnerable. We touch faith with the hope that we will be welcomed. Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #8 The Changing Seasons of Learning to Live with Loss

Recently, I’ve been pulling writings from a series of notebooks and adding them into my second book file. Today I came across some notes I’d made when I was trying to figure out the title for my first book “Grief is… Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings.” My working title had been “Really?!? This is normal?” To me, it was the obvious choice because first, it was the question I repeatedly asked during those early days and secondly, Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #7

Widow Wednesday #7
Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesdays. This week’s taboo busting blog is as much for those looking to better support loved ones who are grieving as it is for those who are grieving. This week’s taboo topic is GRIEF COUNSELLING. Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #6

Widow Wednesday #6
There is this misbelief that staying busy, going out, returning to work, buying a new car and even dating someone new are all signs that we are healing and moving on with our life. But, in many cases, they are simply actions used to break the powerful hold that grief has on us. Continue reading

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