Category Archives: Things I wish I knew

Widow Wednesday #11 Start with the small things

Gratitude is both next to impossible and essential when we are grieving. Don’t even think that I’m going to that place of being grateful because your loved one is no longer suffering or in heaven. That sort of thinking is … Continue reading

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Things not to say

1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve … Continue reading

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One of the Greatest Things Ever (so far)

A friend and I recently watched her ’70 something year old’ cousin marry her ’90 something year old’ fiancée. It was a beautiful ceremony. I was lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. Otherwise, I … Continue reading

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Dear Mean Girls (when you’re not mainstream)

Dear Mean Girls, Thank you for making me an outsider. The view from here is so much more spectacular than you will ever be able to imagine. To all the Carlas, Julies and Sues out there, I want to let … Continue reading

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Three Truths

Many of us go through our days on autopilot surfacing into a state of consciousness only when something out of the ordinary happens. Sometimes it’s a moment of joy or something amusing that rouses us. Other times it is a … Continue reading

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Trigger Days

When you lose someone you love there will always be trigger days that follow. As the anniversary of a friend’s death drew nearer I had my first experience with trigger days. I was anxious and on the actual date I … Continue reading

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In Praise of Conflicting Emotions

Conflicting emotions tend to throw most of us for a loop. Are we angry? Are we sad? Are we relieved? Are we pleased? How is it possible we’re feeling all those emotions at once? It’s enough to shut down many … Continue reading

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