Tag Archives: grief and bereavement

Things not to say

1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve … Continue reading

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One of the Greatest Things Ever (so far)

A friend and I recently watched her ’70 something year old’ cousin marry her ’90 something year old’ fiancée. It was a beautiful ceremony. I was lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. Otherwise, I … Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #9

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesday, where I share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. How to support the grieving: Accept that loss is a life-altering experience Time is a social construct and created through thinking. … Continue reading

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Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug

Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug The holidays are different after loss. It cannot be otherwise. Just as Christmas changed as we grew into adulthood It must also change as we grow into life after loss This takes time Sometimes we yearn … Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #8 The Changing Seasons of Learning to Live with Loss

Recently, I’ve been pulling writings from a series of notebooks and adding them into my second book file. Today I came across some notes I’d made when I was trying to figure out the title for my first book “Grief is… Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings.” My working title had been “Really?!? This is normal?” To me, it was the obvious choice because first, it was the question I repeatedly asked during those early days and secondly, Continue reading

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Widow Wednesday #6

Widow Wednesday #6
There is this misbelief that staying busy, going out, returning to work, buying a new car and even dating someone new are all signs that we are healing and moving on with our life. But, in many cases, they are simply actions used to break the powerful hold that grief has on us. Continue reading

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Widow Wednesdays #5

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesdays. A new way for me to share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. This week I continue tackling the subject of safe people. Who are the safe people? (Part 2) … Continue reading

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